Parenting Blog

Parenting is a sweet feeling, which you can understand only after being a parent. For some people it could be very hard to understand and for some it could be very easy, but in any situation, you will finally feel very good at being a parent. So, what does parenting mean? Does it mean how to become a good parent or does it mean how to make your child feel that how important a parent is in his or her life? Whatever parenting means at least it doesn’t mean to fulfill your dreams by destroying your child’s life. Parenting means how you can handle your kids problems, their likes, dislikes, demands, sickness, schooling and there are lot more than this to take care of after you become a parent.

I can’t make you feel like what I feel after becoming a “mom” (in my child’s words) but at least I can try it out. If you are going to become a new parent, I would like to give you some really interesting, which will make this new parenting experience really effective, rewarding and fun for you. There are some points, which must be taken into consideration, if you want to become a good parent and you want to achieve a good parenting experience.

First and Foremost “Take some time off from your office or your personal work and give that time to your child”, that will enhance your kids self esteem. Give full 100 % attention to his/her voice, because this is the time when they will talk to you and tell you everything and they will learn to express their feelings and most importantly, they will learn to talk. Don’t ignore them ever. Even after spending time with them, they tell you “mommy you have no time for us”. Don’t raise your voice. Talk to them in the most calming voice and Say yes “it’s been a long time since we spent time together”.

• When your kids are small, they have a strong urge to learn. They make their own story when you are away, they will ride their little bike everyday, they want to do all those work which his/her dad does it at home, like tightening screws, hammering on the walls, going for a ride, ask his/her mom whether she wants something from the market. They really like to work with you and for you. Do not ignore them, when they request for work. To make them feel important, you can ask them to help you in several deeds like cutting vegetables, selecting some items like ask him/her which toy you want, which dress you feel will be right for you and so many other things, they are new-generation kids and believe me! They know everything. If you are not able to decide on something, you can always ask them simple questions like how you are looking, is the dress fitting you, and believe me, your kid will always give you the best complement. This is amazing.

• Help your child always. Never try to interfere your children when he gets into bad situation. Every time your kid is learning something, so if you interfere him or her they will never be able to learn on their own. Let them learn themselves. Suppose your kid forgets the lunch. Let him think how to arrange his food, he knows it is there in his mind, because he has seen you several times coming out of bad situation like this. Don’t worry give him some space to think, and even after giving him space, he couldn’t find it out. Help him or her. Trying makes him at least learn something.

• Suppose your kid is angry at you or speaking disrespectfully don’t reply him back in anger, because if you reply back in anger, that doubt will be there in his mind and he will never be able to learn why my mommy shouted back at me. The raised voice will not calm him down, but arise more questions in his mind. So, just leave the room and tell him or her that you are waiting in other room, as you can’t understand him or her when he or she is crying or shouting, when he feels good, he can come and speak to you if he has something to say.

• Kids like several good words including strong, good, and handsome. They don’t like words, which means that they are not good but they are bad. Never tell your kid that he or she is bad unless it is very necessary to make him do something. Tell him it is his behavior, which you don’t like, and it’s very bad. Whether you tell him bad or good, it will not withdraw his or her love for you, but it will definitely reduce some respect, which your child gives you.

• Sometimes you have to be kind and sometimes you have to be strict with your child, because you don’t want people to hate your child for his behavior. Avoid Scolding, but if there is urgency to shout at him, then after the scolding try to talk to your child and try to understand his problem. If he or she is still upset about something try to be patient with your child and calm him or her down with the love.