Parenting Blog

As children learn to use language, they are likely to imitate words and expressions that are considered inappropriate for their age, or even for any age. Children are just like novice drivers-not in full control of the vehicle. Hence they are likely to make ‘verbal mishaps’ by using inappropriate words and calling names. As a caring mom, you are likely to react. But how should you discourage the use of foul language in your kid?

The basic thing to understand in reacting to your child’s foul language is taking a middle course. This means that you need to show your disapproval without being very harsh. If you react strongly, the use of foul language may be strengthened in the child. Try the following guidelines in showing disapproval of the child’s inappropriate language.

• Ignore the child’s first use of an inappropriate word or expression. He/she will most probably forget the undesirable kind of language.
• If the child repeats an inappropriate word or verbal expression, he/she may be demanding a reaction. You can firmly say, ‘we won’t use that word. Don’t say it again, please.’
• What if the child continues to use bad words? You should respond with something like ‘if you want to say that word, don’t say it before me. Go to your room and say it if you like but I think you shouldn’t.’ This is an effective way of discouraging children from using foul language.
• Remember that the children model their use of language on that of their elders. To prevent them from using foul language and calling names, you and your family and friends must treat one another with respect. Don’t utter racial or ethnic slurs, especially before your children, and your children will learn to be fair in their speech.