Parenting Blog

While every parent wants to think their child is an angel, the sad truth often comes around the fourth year. A child that has always been quiet and meek can often become combative and disrespectful. For most parents this change is very sudden and very alarming. Reports start coming from school that your child is acting out and disrespecting his or her teachers. Next, the fits start. Something as simple as a candy bar can bring on a meltdown in the middle of the supermarket. So what can you, as a parent, do to bring back your sweet and innocent toddler? Consider the following options.

Stick to Your Guns

While it may seem frustrating, the first things you have to do are stick to the rules and allow no infringements. If you allow your child two hours of television a day and he throws a fit when you say time is up, don’t give in. If you allow him to continue watching television after the fit, you can expect this behavior on a daily basis. You may even have to resort to drastic measures. A fit in the checkout line can be met with a trip out of the store without groceries or special snacks. When you leave the store empty handed your son or daughter will quickly learn that the behavior is unacceptable.

Understand 4 Year Old Stresses

You may think that your four year old lives a care free, fun life. However, that is not always the case. Children worry and stress out in the same way that adults do. The difference is that children do not know how to show these emotions or discuss them properly yet. The result of a stressed out four year old can often be crying, whining, acting out, or belligerent behavior. Take the time to examine what is going on in your child’s life before assuming they are out of control. Do you have a new baby on the way? Is the child struggling to make friends in school? Examine these things and try to fix any issues. You may just end up being the hero to your four year old rather than the enemy.